Hawzah News Agency - Question: I like to be quiet and always smiling because I hate sullen people who burst into anger, frowning until their eyes bulge out and their faces turn red. But unfortunately, I am not truly the person I would like to be. Frankly, I am one of those people whom I do not like, just as the poet said, “I like good people, but I am not one of them.” Please guide me to the way of patience and controlling my furious anger so that I may be like those I admire and finally like myself.
Answer:
It is necessary for you to be aware of the problem that provokes your nerves in order to avoid it and shield yourself from its effects. When you face this problem, first try to recognize its causes and then try your best to avoid it. For example, someone may become angry at something, but the real cause is the heat or the fact that he has not taken a bath for a few days. If he takes off some of his clothes, takes a bath, or pours cool water over his body, he might not become angry or excited over every trivial annoyance.
It is said that using sweet perfumes eases one’s nerves, especially the scents of rose, jasmine, and tea rose. An angry man should associate with the beauty of nature—ponder on the sky, the sea, mountains, and trees—and lie down for some time in the kind lap of nature. He should work only to the extent his body can tolerate and should not overburden himself with what exhausts him. He must be moderate in eating and not overload his stomach.
Dear brother, I advise you to practice sportive exercises in the morning, at least the Swedish exercises. Do not forget the mention of Allah in any case, and especially when you are angry. You should remember the anger of Allah towards you. You should know that Islam considers anger as a soldier of Satan. Therefore, an angry person is one who carries this soldier on his back and protects him. Do you want to be like that? Certainly not! Then smile, even if your smile is not real!
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Source: "For a better future" by Hussain Ansariyan , Q16
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